I know this time of year might be difficult with all the changes and possibly waking up alone or not spending the holidays as a family but just know it’s ok to not have all the answers, things might not be perfect like that hallmark movie but you got this and remember that you will get through it and be ok.
Co-parenting at any time of the year can be challenging. Managing birthdays, vacations, special days throughout the year and busy schedules become a balancing act that all split families learn to juggle real quick. Throw in the Christmas holidays, extra family members from both sides and an increased intake of sugar and excitement and co-parenting can go from already challenging too more like one of those wild rides where you just hang on for dear life.
The holidays are a time to enjoy family friends, share in laughs and unwind from busy schedules. Regardless of how much you plan and organize and prepare this time of year there are bound to be some hiccups. Through my co-parenting journey these are a couple of the things I have learned:
I have been in your shoes and remember my first Christmas without my babies and it was hard. I remember making plans with my best friend and her husband and those will always be some of my fondest memories. Honour yourself, the change and new beginnings. There is value in quality over quantity. Take a deep breath, enjoy the moments and create holiday memories that last a lifetime.
Written by Alie Lewis, Certified Counsellor with Wildflowers.